Breaking the Cycle: True Fatherhood and Grace

• Heavenly Father vs. Earthly Father [00:01:40 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor contrasts the potential failure or absence of earthly fathers with the reliable presence of God as a Heavenly Father who steps in when natural parents fail or pass away.
• Breaking Generational Curses [00:04:17 ▶️ 📄]
  > The speaker encourages listeners to consciously decide to stop carrying the weight of past family dysfunction and to 'pivot' away from repeating the mistakes of their parents.
• Parenting and Faith Building [00:12:48 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor argues that a father's greatest responsibility is not building wealth but building faith, emphasizing that children remember spiritual presence (prayer) more than material gifts.
• Healing in Front of Children [00:08:51 ▶️ 📄]
  > The speaker advocates for parents to openly heal from their own wounds in front of their children, modeling that it is okay to admit hurt and seek restoration rather than hiding dysfunction.
• Fatherhood and Divine Revelation [00:18:22 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor argues that God chose fatherhood to reveal His heart to humanity, contrasting the nurturing, anointing role of mothers with the stabilizing, 'I got you' presence of fathers.
• Listening to Wisdom [00:18:35 ▶️ 📄]
  > The speaker urges the congregation to listen to their earthly fathers (or spiritual fathers) to avoid repeating cycles of error, using her own experience of her father driving her in circles on Highway 285 until she learned.
• Redefining Masculinity [00:20:51 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor debunks cultural definitions of masculinity (money, toughness, fear) and replaces them with biblical definitions: responsibility, integrity, and protection.
• Responsibility vs. Promotion [00:22:07 ▶️ 📄]
  > Using Genesis 2:15, the pastor asserts that God gave Adam work/responsibility before a wife, establishing that responsibility precedes promotion and that men must take ownership rather than making excuses.
• Spiritual Protection [00:25:00 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor defines a man of God as one who protects his atmosphere, home, marriage, and integrity, citing Nehemiah 4:14 to emphasize fighting for one's family.
• Marital Dynamics and Forgiveness [00:28:11 ▶️ 📄]
  > The speaker discusses the necessity of forgiveness and understanding gender roles in marriage, sharing personal anecdotes about her husband's grooming habits and her own 'problem-solving' nature to illustrate complementary dynamics.
• Marriage Dynamics and Gender Roles [00:30:02 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor uses a humorous anecdote about a husband paying the bill to illustrate complementary roles in marriage, advising women to pray for their husbands' change rather than demanding it.
• Spiritual Warfare vs. Personal Choice [00:32:51 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor argues that many believers mistake 'choice attacks' (bad decisions, toxic relationships) for 'spiritual/demonic attacks,' urging listeners to take responsibility for their actions.
• Characteristics of a Man of God [00:36:23 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor lists specific traits of a godly man: leading by example, needing Jesus, praying, living out scripture, and being present/responsible rather than perfect.
• Restoration and Repentance [00:37:56 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor emphasizes that failure does not disqualify a man, citing biblical figures like Peter and David, and calls men to surrender to God and women to pray for them.

• Sermon Illustration [00:01:09 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor shares a personal anecdote about his father's death six years prior, noting his initial desire to be sad but choosing to focus on his father's pride in him. He also recounts a humorous social media trend where wives joke that they are the 'gift' for Father's Day because they gave their husbands children.
• Sermon Illustration [00:13:23 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor tells a story about his father staying up all night with him when he was 16 and accidentally ingested laced marijuana, reassuring him, 'You ain't gonna die as long as I'm here.'
• Sermon Illustration [00:14:22 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor recounts a vacation story where his brother got drunk playing beer pong on New Year's Eve. The pastor's father carried the drunk brother through the resort, demonstrating physical care and protection despite the chaos.
• Sermon Illustration [00:15:03 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor recounts a story from her childhood where her brother got drunk at a pastor's kid resort event. She describes her fear of telling her father, her mother's anxiety because she had never been drunk, and her father's gentle response of carrying the brother and laying with him overnight, teaching the brother that he disappointed him in his heart, not just his body.
• Sermon Illustration [00:18:55 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor shares a personal anecdote about her father driving her in circles on Highway 285 to teach her a lesson. She explains that he would drive until she got a clue, never rubbing it in her face when she finally understood, illustrating patient, persistent fatherly wisdom.
• Sermon Illustration [00:28:40 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor describes her husband Angelo's meticulous grooming routine, noting he stands in the mirror for 30 minutes with water running, clipping gray hairs and making the bed perfectly. She uses this to illustrate his dedication to order and care, contrasting it with her own 'slow, low' and problem-solving personality.
• Sermon Illustration [00:29:56 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor tells a story about a dinner date where she signaled the waiter for the bill by putting her fork down, knowing her husband would want to pay. She explains that she learned not to tell him what to do ('I think you should do this') because he is an 'alpha' man who responds better to implicit cues than direct commands.
• Sermon Illustration [00:29:56 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor tells a story about a restaurant where her husband insists on paying the bill to avoid her driving home, using it to illustrate how men and women complement each other in marriage.
• Sermon Illustration [00:34:05 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor recounts a time she was pulled over by police in Fayetteville for speeding while rushing her father with Alzheimer's to the hospital, highlighting the strictness of local law enforcement and her fear of being jailed.
• Sermon Illustration [00:34:56 ▶️ 📄]
  > The pastor shares a personal story of being stopped by cops, performing a field sobriety test while nervous, and realizing she must now drive carefully to avoid trouble.

• Pastoral Charge [00:10:56 ▶️ 📄]
  > Fathers are instructed to prioritize pointing their children to Jesus as their primary responsibility.
• Pastoral Charge [00:11:41 ▶️ 📄]
  > The congregation is called to make a definitive choice about whom they will serve, referencing Joshua 24:15.
• Pastoral Charge [00:31:18 ▶️ 📄]
  > Pray specifically for God to send a God-fearing man into the lives of single women.
• Pastoral Charge [00:39:01 ▶️ 📄]
  > Commit to praying for the men in their lives.
• Pastoral Charge [00:41:16 ▶️ 📄]
  > Find a man in the room, point to him, and touch him (or snuggle if married).

[00:00:10] [SPEAKER SPEAKER_01]
[00:00:10] People, listen. We had an incredible service today. You know, Father's Day can be hard. It's hard because we've lost daddies, we've got a lot of single mamas raising their kids, we've got dads that don't feel celebrated.
[00:00:23] Daddy's Day's hard. And today, I want to make sure that you are taking a heart check. Check your spirit. I'm about to preach a sermon that's going to shake you, touch you, and bless you, and let you know that dad don't quit.
[00:00:39] Dad, you were created for this challenge.
[00:00:41] This sermon will even minister to the women, getting you ready for what God's bringing you into for the next season.
[00:00:46] So thank you.
[00:00:47] Make sure you subscribe to this channel.
[00:00:49] I love you.
[00:00:51] Thank you for being here.
[00:00:52] Thank you for being a part of Limitless.
[00:00:53] And I'll see you next week.
[00:00:55] Happy Father's Day.
[00:01:00] Okay, y'all listen.
[00:01:01] This can be a happy day or a sad day.
[00:01:04] How many of y'all sad?
[00:01:05] How many a little heavy today because of a daddy?
[00:01:09] You a little sad?
[00:01:10] My daddy died six years ago, last Tuesday, six years ago, Tuesday, my daddy passed away.
[00:01:23] And you know, I wanted to be sad that day, man, everything in me wanted to be on the pity bus.
[00:01:30] But instead I started thinking, man, my daddy would be real proud of me.
[00:01:34] And I want to talk to every dad in this room, every man, every woman.
[00:01:40] if you ain't got a daddy in your life you listen to me you got a heavenly father that when your daddy goes to glory he steps in when your spouse leaves you he steps in when you walk through a
[00:01:55] breakup he walks in when your kids are being prodigal he walks in and so today I want to preach a sermon I really got you don't always come with several titles right I come with so
[00:02:08] many titles because I like titles. I like, I like, I like to, to hit something and you'd be like, oh my God, that shifted my whole perspective. So today I, I, I want a title to the second
[00:02:21] service because you know, I always give y'all two different sermons. We're supposed to be the same sermon, but I got two. Listen to this. Dear dad, don't give up. Dear dad, say dear dad, don't give up dear dad don't give up and that's even for the women being dads you know what I'm
[00:02:46] saying ever so often we get and I even saw on social media because social media gets a little crazy there's some single dads having to do it alone there's some single mamas having to do it
[00:02:55] alone but this year there's a new trend going on where the woman is walking into her husband and She's saying, baby, where are you taking me for Father's Day?
[00:03:03] And he's like, for what?
[00:03:06] She said, because I'm the gift.
[00:03:09] I gave you a kid.
[00:03:10] If I wouldn't have given you the kid, you wouldn't have had Father's Day.
[00:03:13] So where are you taking me?
[00:03:15] And I started thinking about how we are so like that.
[00:03:21] You know, we're in this world because of social media.
[00:03:25] we have a lot of things in our brains because we see stuff every day and this is why it's so careful that you watch what you're scrolling watch what you're putting in your spirit because
[00:03:37] the enemy knows what you're dealing with and he will send the exact people in your news feed to condone the behavior and so we go through every season mad at our dad that did something
[00:03:50] to us 48 years ago and we can't even remember what he did we just know we mad right or maybe you that husband that gave you five kids and then they left and went raise somebody else's kids
[00:03:59] or that mama that was never happy with nothing and just got up and left life say life happens but I shift things say but I shift things say I am the generational curse breaker in my family
[00:04:17] so if I don't like something I fix it if I don't want to be like that I don't be like that Do y'all hear yourself? So today I can cry or I can be happy. I can choose today to be the best day
[00:04:34] of the rest of my life. So self, get up. Dad, get up. Mama, get up. Get up. Get up. Get up. Get up.
[00:04:49] I want to start with the sermon series today.
[00:04:56] I want to go to, um, I want to skip down to, uh, Joshua 24, 15.
[00:05:07] So go down to five.
[00:05:09] So I did one through five in the first service, and I'm going to do five through 10 on this service.
[00:05:15] I, this is why all you people just say for two services, you get the whole service.
[00:05:20] I believe somebody needs to hear this today because one of the most powerful pictures of God in scripture is the prodigal son and how the father is running toward his child.
[00:05:37] The child has said, I don't deserve it. I'm going to go back and I'm going to, I'm going to just be a, uh, clean up the pigs and do whatever I got to do because I don't feel worthy. But a true father
[00:05:49] is the kind that just lets stuff go and gets back into position, right? A mother doesn't hold anger and bitterness. You ever had a, anybody had a grown kid act up and they treated you a certain
[00:06:03] way and you want to give it back to them? How many did it? She says, sort of, sort of, but we just don't do that because God has given us a mandate to shift atmospheres, right? So we don't retaliate.
[00:06:22] and so the most powerful picture is in that scripture where God is showing us the father that's running toward his child not away from him toward him so the son made mistakes like us lots of us have made mistakes in life the son wasted everything the son failed but his father
[00:06:49] never stopped loving him. And that's the heart of our heavenly father. So when you walk in and you're still holding stuff from what our natural father did, or our natural mother did, or whoever hurt us, we're not understanding that our holy father steps in when we feel dropped. And so today,
[00:07:11] if you're feeling sad, or if you're feeling overwhelmed, you got to make a conscious decision that today is where this stops. Today is where this dysfunction stops. This fear stops this beat myself up because I wasn't the way I thought I should be. And people are telling me
[00:07:29] you ain't no good. And whatever people are telling you, or maybe, maybe it's you. They couldn't, they didn't get to have your father in your life. And you tried everything to reach out to them and be that child and they kept neglecting you. Can I tell you something? A lot of times the
[00:07:50] reason fathers do what they do is because of the shame. They did not not love you. They don't feel worthy of that position because God created man to lead. God created man to take care of. Men are
[00:08:11] hunters. Men are protectors. And so when a man is brought up, not right, maybe he was raised by parents. See, people don't understand us parents, man. My husband said in first service that we only
[00:08:28] can do what we've been taught. And a lot of times us parents are learning on the job. And so that's why when we get grown and we say, man, I didn't like the way my daddy made me feel, or I didn't
[00:08:39] like the way my mama made me feel. I make a conscious decision to shift and I don't let the weight go with me into that season because someone couldn't step up. That's why it's so great for us
[00:08:51] to heal, heal in front of our kids, not walk around acting like we don't have anything to heal from heal in front of our kids so that they know when they get broken, cause they will, that they can
[00:09:05] heal too but instead we walk through life and we never admit that hurt you not being there for me hurt you loving the rest of my family hurt you're not showing me how to be a man to my kids hurt
[00:09:22] but now I got something on the inside of me that tells me I can pivot and so it's pivoting so what the enemy wants you to do is the enemy wants you to cry all day today the enemy wants you to cry
[00:09:36] every time that year anniversary comes up of the death of your father or your spouse or your mother.
[00:09:42] Because the enemy wants you to stay heavy laden.
[00:09:45] But the Bible says that he sticks close to the broken hearted and he binds up their wounds.
[00:09:54] What does that mean?
[00:09:55] That means that when we go through seasons that they were just singing about, that he is a healer, that he is a provider, that he is a way maker, that he is the king of kings and the lord of lords he is the alpha and the omega he is yahuwah
[00:10:10] he is oh he is the beginning and the end but see we can't feel that as long as we're holding that empty space because nobody filled it somebody needs to hear this maybe your earthly father
[00:10:27] wasn't there maybe he failed you maybe he hurt you and maybe you've spent years maybe your mama did maybe your sister did and maybe you spent years carrying it the heavy heavenly father is saying
[00:10:40] to you today that he's never going to leave he stays he protects he provides he heals he restores he never walks away and daddy I came all the way to tell you today and everybody watching online
[00:10:56] You are killing it. You are doing a good, good job. Write this down. The best thing that a daddy can do is point his children to Jesus. The best thing that a daddy can do is point his children
[00:11:17] to Jesus. Joshua 24, 15 says, as for me and my family, what? As for me and my family, we will serve the Lord. Then choose today whom you will serve. Would you prefer the gods your ancestors
[00:11:41] served beyond the Euphrates or will it be the gods of the Amorites in whose land you now live?
[00:11:48] but as for me and my house. So basically that is saying, will it be the Amorites in whose lands you now live? Or will it be the gods your ancestors served beyond the Ephraimites? Will it be,
[00:12:03] will your family turn out to be like your mom and dad? Are you going to serve the dysfunction they served? Are you going to say, as for me and my house, we're going to do things differently.
[00:12:17] Am I going to turn out like them or him?
[00:12:22] So he says, but as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.
[00:12:26] That means every time we fall, we get back up again.
[00:12:32] Not faking it, not being phony, but healing in front of everybody.
[00:12:38] Right?
[00:12:39] A real father understands his greatest responsibility isn't building wealth, it's building faith.
[00:12:48] Money's good, but it sure don't bring happiness.
[00:12:52] I mean, it does help.
[00:12:55] I'd rather have money than being broke.
[00:12:57] Somebody said, money ain't all that.
[00:12:58] And I'm like, yeah, but it sure does help.
[00:13:01] But when you realize that the greatest responsibility isn't just building wealth, it's building faith.
[00:13:08] And one day your children won't remember every gift.
[00:13:10] They won't remember that vacation.
[00:13:13] But they'll remember if daddy prayed.
[00:13:17] When daddy came into my room, I remember thinking of stories of my dad.
[00:13:23] I, I, I, I, I chose to, to try the Mary Jane. Do y'all know what that is? The plant. And I come home one night and I was like, dad, I think I'm done. My daddy laid right there beside me
[00:13:46] all night long. He said, baby, you ain't gonna die as long as I'm here. He said, but I'm going, I'm going to make sure that you good. I felt like I had gotten something that was laced. I was 16
[00:13:56] years old. I was seeing the seats in the car melt. Anybody ever like a bad brownie? And all I could see was the melting of the leather. And I'm like, I could see my friend's face melting. And so I was
[00:14:11] thinking I'm melting. Then another time I remember when my brother, we went on vacation and my brother, we were, it was New Year's Eve. My mom and daddy told us, they said, you make sure that
[00:14:22] y'all are back in this house by New Year's because we're going to celebrate the new year.
[00:14:28] So at 1145, y'all have your butt back in this house. Well, my brother decided that he was going to tie one on with the security guard. I'm telling it all. And now you're here. So you get to hear
[00:14:45] all of it. He gets drunk, drunker than anybody else in that room, or maybe they couldn't handle it, but we were very, very, very sheltered. That's what we're going to say. We were pastor's kids
[00:15:03] and it was probably the deacon's kids that did this. And so I am trying to not get my brother in trouble because I'm trying to save him. Cause I know my daddy going to tear his butt up. And so
[00:15:17] I am trying to fix it, but he had done too many shots of vodka. He won. He won the whole game.
[00:15:24] pong, beer pong, something. Well, I run home and I walk in and I'm scared to death to tell my daddy my brother is laying in a bathtub because he was all over the place. And he said,
[00:15:45] baby, show me where your brother is. I thought, oh dear God. And so I'm walking with me, me, everybody knew we were, my daddy was pastors at that condo. We went every single year. It was
[00:15:59] like a camp. Everybody knew my mom and daddy were pastors. My brother and I were out here sowing our oats. Couldn't tell us nothing. And my daddy goes and we walk in and my daddy picks
[00:16:10] my brother up and carries him all through the resort with Robbie. Robbie is, he's holding him like this with his head over and he's carrying him. And Robbie is doing this. And my daddy, my mom is going, baby, don't do that to your daddy. Don't hurt your daddy, baby. Cause she
[00:16:40] ain't never been drunk in her whole life. Like she still ain't been drunk. Like I had to do everything so I could understand the center. She still ain't been drunk. She won't even drink no
[00:16:49] wine. Like she's like, oh, on, on two sips. Don't do that to your daddy, baby. We get there. And literally that night, my daddy lays with my brother, wakes up in the morning and my brother
[00:17:06] looks, opens his eyes. And my daddy says, how you doing, baby? Are you, is your stomach hurt?
[00:17:11] is your head hurting he said no sir but my heart is I was like oh dear god you suck up no sir but my heart is because I disappointed you now I was the one he was the repentant one I was like
[00:17:35] yeah and I was the one he'd be like girl you're gonna come to church and lead praise and worship drunk but you're gonna come I'd be like daddy I can't come to church drunk and lead your worship
[00:17:45] he's like, oh, yes, you are. He said, because you're going to show the devil. I might be hung over and I might sound like I smell like a whole bar, but you're going to praise your way right
[00:17:54] through it every single time. That's what daddies are to their kids. You hear me? Daddies show their kids what Jesus looks like. Us women are crazy. Baby, don't do that. We're going through the kid's rooms, anointing everything and leaving oil and crosses on the walls. And the dads are like,
[00:18:17] son, daddy's here when you need me, daughter, baby girl, I got you. You're going to be all right.
[00:18:22] See, children won't remember the gift. They won't even remember the vacation, but because God chose fatherhood to reveal his heart to humanity, that's why you matter.
[00:18:35] Before you ignore wisdom, before you chase your own way, before you repeat a cycle, listen to your daddy. It could be your spiritual daddy. It could even be your mama. There are people that don't like to take wisdom from nobody. I didn't. You can tell me nothing. My daddy would
[00:18:55] drive me around 285. Every time we'd go get on 285, I think, oh dear God, that means we're going to go until I got a clue. He was just going to go in circles. Baby, don't do this. You're getting
[00:19:06] yourself in trouble. Don't do this, baby. Don't do this. Don't do this. But he would drive until he got through to me. And then we get off on an exit. And I remember one time we're driving and
[00:19:15] I said, daddy, I understand. He said, no, you don't. You just want to get off 285 and we're going to go three more times. But you know what my dad never did? My dad never rubbed it in my face.
[00:19:26] My dad never rubbed it in my face. I listened to my daddy and above all else, listen to your heavenly father. What is he saying to you? What are you holding this morning that you got to let
[00:19:40] go of? What are you brewing over? See, listening to your heavenly father. Here's why. Because he sees the end from the beginning, because he loves you too much to let you walk blindly into what he
[00:19:54] already warned you about. The voice of wisdom may not always be the loudest voice, but it's the voice that will save your life. Who is it? Who are you listening to? Who's got the loudest voice in
[00:20:12] your ear? Do you shy down? Do you let yourself become a little smaller in their presence because you're still carrying baggage from other stuff? Are you missing out on growth and growing in God because you haven't yet learned how to let stuff go? Listen to this. Micah six, eight. It says no
[00:20:34] old people. The Lord has told you what is good. And this is what he requires of you to do what is right to love mercy and walk humbly with your God. So we live in a culture that has confused
[00:20:51] masculinity. Some people think a real man is determined by how much money he makes.
[00:20:57] Others think it's about how tough he looks, how loud he talks, how many people fear him, and how many followers he has. But God has always had a different definition.
[00:21:11] A real man, say a real man, isn't measured by what he owns.
[00:21:16] A real man is measured by who he is when the lights are out, when the lights go out in Georgia, but God has a different measuring stick because strength without character, strength without character is dangerous because power without integrity is destructive
[00:21:42] and influence without God is what empty it's empty and today I want to talk to you really quick in the next eight minutes about what heaven calls you a real man takes responsibility Genesis 2.15 says, the Lord God placed the man in the garden of Eden to tend and watch over it.
[00:22:07] Before God gave Adam a wife, he gave Adam responsibility. Notice this. God gave Adam work before he gave him a woman. Because responsibility always comes before promotion.
[00:22:29] A boy makes excuses. A man takes ownership. A boy blames others. A man looks in the mirror.
[00:22:37] a real man doesn't spend his life explaining why things went wrong a woman a little girl makes excuses a little girl takes on a little hold on hold on I'm trying to flip this y'all
[00:22:54] work with me a little girl makes excuses a real woman takes ownership a little girl blames others a real woman looks in the mirror and we do not let pride keep us stuck see a real man and a
[00:23:10] woman doesn't spend their life explaining why things went wrong we shift it we get out of our feelings and into healing so a real man and a woman starts asking what can we do to make things
[00:23:23] different this is why it's very important that when you are getting in a relationship that you are equally yoked. You got to be equally yoked because whenever you down, they up. When they up, when you're, when you're down, they're up. When they're down, you're up. See, fathers need to
[00:23:43] hear this. Your children don't need you to be perfect. Your children don't even care if you weren't in their lives for 20 years. And then all of a sudden God calls you back. A child, even a
[00:23:56] grown adult, when a, when a man reaches out and says, I am sorry. And I'm trying, do you know a kid's like, bring it on? Come on, let's come on. Come in, come in. Let's hug it out. Let's hug it
[00:24:07] out. But what the enemy does is the enemy keeps you far, far away because the enemy knows that consistency shifts everything. See, they don't need a superhero. They need a father who shows up because showing up matters. Being present matters. Being engaged matters. Write this down.
[00:24:29] A man of God protects what God gave him. A man of God protects what gave him. Listen to what Nehemiah 4.14 says. It says, don't be afraid. Don't be afraid of the enemy. Remember the Lord
[00:24:44] who is great and glorious and fights for you, for your brothers, for your sons, for your daughters, for your wives, for your homes. Remember, as for me and we, what? We'll serve the Lord.
[00:25:00] And I need everybody in this room and online to take an evaluation of your heart. Not his, not hers, not theirs, yours. How am I doing with what I've made it through? Because we can shout,
[00:25:17] I made it through despite the storm, heartache and pain. I never stopped loving you, but you did.
[00:25:26] You stopped loving him. You stopped worshiping. You stopped being excited. You stopped wanting to shift when things didn't happen quick enough. So a real man understands that protection is not just physical, it's spiritual. You protect your atmosphere. You protect your home. You protect
[00:25:49] your marriage you protect your children you protect your integrity you protect your peace see some men can fight everybody on the planet except flesh a flesh so you can conquer the marketplace but lose your family you got to build a business so much so to prove to your father that
[00:26:21] you were something that it destroys your marriage you work so much you know how quick they're gonna fill your position when you die. Missing moments, missing moments to say, I'm sorry. You have to build a business, but destroy your marriage. You win public battles, but lose private wars.
[00:26:51] You know how you're, no, you're losing. You're sad. You cry yourself to sleep at night.
[00:26:58] Listen to what, listen to what first Corinthians 11 and one says. It says, and you should imitate me just as I imitate Christ. A man of God guards his heart because he knows everything flows from
[00:27:15] it. A man of God leads by example because leadership isn't about position. Leadership is about influence. A daddy is just a name. A father is the tagline you want. A daddy is just something you get at birth but a father is something that these kids know if we ain't got
[00:27:47] nothing to eat my daddy ain't gonna walk out on me my daddy's gonna fight for me my daddy's gonna be there through thick and thin even when my daddy's dead I'm gonna be looking back and saying
[00:27:57] my daddy would be so proud of me because of what he put inside of me so my question today is how are you leading women are you letting your spouses how many people married in here how are we doing
[00:28:11] with that how are we doing with it good I love this you ought to see all the hands because baby if we don't learn how to get them roles in place and learn how to forgive there's some friction up
[00:28:27] in there because what God gives we can destroy from a lack of knowledge and a lack of forgiveness yo I would literally walk around when me and Angelo got together I never thought in a million
[00:28:40] years that I'd find a man so much like my daddy this man stands in the mirror for 30 minutes with the water running just like my daddy like I have no idea what he's doing for 30 minutes that water
[00:28:52] is gonna run and he gonna pick every hair that he can find he gonna be he gonna be even got scissors up in his hair just making sure they ain't got no gray up in there he clipping them hand clipping
[00:29:03] the grays out of his hair clean as a freak he makes the bed because ain't nobody gonna do it as good as him. And I let him last night, we went out to eat. There's, there's, there's times when
[00:29:23] I have to back off because I'm, I'm a problem solver. Y'all, you know, problem solve. And so I see a problem and I want to fix it. Or I see, I can't, I can't do slow. Well, God gave me slow,
[00:29:40] low. So now slow, low in me, we met, we just, I just laugh until the restaurant and we've already eaten all our food. And he puts that fork down one more time and he got two more bites, but he put
[00:29:56] the fork down on the plate, which means that fork will stay down for a minute. I'm done eating.
[00:30:02] And that waiter is very busy. And that waiter comes over to the table and that waiter says to us, do y'all need anything else? And I say, no, ma'am, just the bill. Well, I know that irritates
[00:30:14] the heck out of him. He like, you're going to pay for it. So as last night, as the bill came, all of a sudden I just said hey baby you want to you want to you want to get the your card out you
[00:30:26] want me to I know that's all he needs to hear girl you want to drive home by yourself because he's a man and I've learned being a wife that I don't want to be single again and I married a
[00:30:46] whole alpha I know that if I want Angelo to do something the worst thing I can say is I think you should do this. He is not going to do that. So in life, God puts people together like this.
[00:31:06] This is why some marriages work and some don't. I can tell you after being divorced that the slim pickings out in these streets. So I can tell you real quick, you got to start praying intentional
[00:31:18] prayers. You got to pray for God to send a man of God into your life. Singles, listen to me.
[00:31:23] You got to God, send a man of God into my life. That is God fearing that loves me enough to tell me the truth that loves me enough to get up after we fight let that kid say he's sorry right give me
[00:31:34] that and then you got to start praying over yourself Lord let me be the wife that my husband needs stop praying for him to change and pray for yourself to change because when God puts people
[00:31:48] together one will put a thousand to flight two will put ten thousand to flight right and when a man's got a woman we're yo we we as women are his neck so he's the head but we that neck so you can
[00:32:07] wear that man out where he's driving around his cul-de-sac where i put needles in his eyeballs and come look at your tired face or every day you can be speaking life into him baby i know you
[00:32:17] carry the weight of the world and i know today you're gonna make the right decisions i pray for godly decisions right that's why you got to start praying for your spouse how many singles we got
[00:32:26] up in here. You got to start praying right now for God to send you somebody in your life that y'all can push each other to breakthroughs and not breakdowns. Cause I believe that God does
[00:32:39] fairy tales. You know, these people that are always like, Oh, I'm in spiritual attack. No, you in choice attack. Cause God did not put you on this earth to always make you be in some type
[00:32:51] of demonic attack. Every single Sunday you up here getting prayed for the same thing. No, you need to cut some ties. You need to break some relationships that are toxic. You need to hush your mouth. You need to drive the speed limit. Today, when we pulled into church, there
[00:33:07] was cops up in here. They were right there. When we pulled in, I was like, why? Out of the school across the street, why we got cops in our church? It's going to be weird when people pull in.
[00:33:23] well you know me I want to go fix it what do we need to do to get y'all out of here we got church up in here can I help you and I heard the Lord say let them do their job
[00:33:39] because just because I'm a fixer don't mean I need to go help the cops Officer Mack said girl stay out of it because you don't want to be in the back of the car and it's having to tell everybody
[00:33:53] Pastor Kim is in jail because Fayetteville cops don't play.
[00:33:59] I ain't them good old boys.
[00:34:00] They don't play.
[00:34:04] They waiting.
[00:34:05] I remember one time I was going to do my book.
[00:34:07] My daddy's in the back of the seat and y'all know he had Alzheimer's and we're headed to do my audio book and I'm in late.
[00:34:15] And so I see this car poking along and I just whip around.
[00:34:20] I didn't even think about it.
[00:34:22] It was a cop.
[00:34:22] I whipped in front of him right here in Fayetteville in the cul-de-sac all of a sudden I hear I pull over and immediately I'm like you can't tell a lie because the first thing I want to say
[00:34:38] is my dad's having a seizure I'm trying to get him to the hospital my daddy got Alzheimer's daddy act up mama pinch him pinch him mama before I knew it there was three more cops
[00:34:53] and they were making me walk.
[00:34:56] They were like, we know you're drunk because ain't nobody in their right mind that would do that.
[00:34:59] I said, I promise you, I didn't even realize it was you.
[00:35:02] I just was late.
[00:35:04] And they made me sit there and do this.
[00:35:05] Right here in the corner, it's like, I'm already pastoring.
[00:35:09] And I'm walking and they're making me touch my nose.
[00:35:11] Well, you know you mess up because you're nervous.
[00:35:15] They said, if we take your blood right now, what are we going to find?
[00:35:19] I said, A positive.
[00:35:20] So now I know in Fayetteville, I don't ever speed.
[00:35:27] I don't whip around nobody no more and I pay attention So if you're in a situation like that right now Suck it up buttercup And let god Do what he needs to do as you stand on your feet. I need you to write this down. This is the last one
[00:35:43] The best thing that a daddy can do is love like God, all right So the best thing that a mama can do and i'm gonna put on mamas too because we had a lot of saying how many
[00:35:58] Single mamas we got up in here how many single daddies we got up in here man we need to get some more single daddies I want to get these women married we got some fine women up here and I don't want y'all to
[00:36:12] go marry out because then you'll leave so I want y'all to bring good men up in here you know we need some people's this is the last one you ready for this a man of God leads by example
[00:36:23] your greatest sermon is your life man of God and here's the last one a man of God knows that he needs Jesus. He ain't trying to do it by himself. A real man prays. A man of God prays.
[00:36:48] He doesn't just post scriptures. He lives it. He doesn't just attend church. He leads spiritually.
[00:36:56] He knows his family needs more than his paycheck. His family needs his prayers.
[00:37:02] And here's the last one. Y'all ready for this? Say, bring it on, PK. A man of God gets.
[00:37:14] A man of God gets, Proverbs 24, 16 says the godly may trip seven times, but they will get up again.
[00:37:27] Every father in this room has made mistakes.
[00:37:31] Every man has regrets.
[00:37:34] Every man has moments that he wishes he could do it over, but a real man of God doesn't stay down.
[00:37:43] He gets back up again.
[00:37:44] He learns, he grows, he repents, he heals.
[00:37:48] He keeps moving. The enemy wants men to believe one failed, one failure disqualifies you.
[00:37:56] But God's grace says, get back up. How many of y'all need to get back up? I only feel like you just need to get back up again. Listen to this. I'm going to help you out. Peter failed. David
[00:38:08] failed. Moses failed. Yet God still used them. Real men are not perfect. A real man is present.
[00:38:21] A real man is responsible. A real man protects. A real man leads. And don't be in this room today saying, well, I guess I ain't a real man. Yes, you are. And we are so proud of you. Maybe you're a
[00:38:37] father today carrying guilt. Maybe you're a man carrying regret. Maybe you're just tired. Maybe you've been trying to do life without God. And today isn't about condemnation. It's about restoration. Women, can we do something in here? Can every one of us commit that we'll pray for
[00:39:01] the men in our lives? Because a praying woman shifts atmospheres. Do you hear me? Not a woman that's a nag not a woman that's always telling him what he ain't calling him out of name but a woman
[00:39:14] that prays a woman that when he walks in the house she adores him she loves him she speaks the prophetic into him maybe you're a man trying to do life without God got condemnation well
[00:39:32] listen to me today guys it's about restoration because God isn't looking for perfect men he's looking for surrendered men men who will say lord i may not have gotten everything right but from this day forward i belong to you and if you're in the room today and you say kim
[00:39:53] i've walked away from god i've wandered away i allowed just feeling like i wasn't great i wasn't nobody was grateful for me I felt so used I never heard thank you I only heard you're supposed to
[00:40:10] do this because you're the man and today I'm gonna let it go and I'm gonna step up to the plate and I'm about to shift the narrative because God is looking for a surrendered man I want you to
[00:40:24] repeat this say Lord I may not have gotten everything right but from this day forward i belong to you today i commit to taking this burden and shifting shoulders and i will do what god's called me to do if you have a man right beside you don't touch him and if you ain't his
[00:40:53] wife keep your hands off of him period but i do need you to do this even if they're not your spouse everybody in here find a man and just point to them just with your hands every man should have
[00:41:16] a woman just touching, not touching them. Unless you're married, then you better snuggle.
[00:41:23] Snuggle. Say, Lord, bless this man. Give him wisdom. Give him understanding. Give him good decisions. Lord, let this man walk without fear. Move with understanding. Say, Lord, made this man a pillar at his job
[00:41:51] all day every day let this man shine let this man live his best years let him be joyous let him be happy Lord give him rest give him peace I just felt that peace peace
[00:42:12] peace man of God peace peace in your life peace in your family peace in your body peace in your sleep peace in Jesus name amen amen and amen